What Pisses Me Off
I am sick to death of platitudes from people who don’t really care. Can we be more original, please? I know my motivation was lacking and still is at times, but I don’t need to hear you tell me that it is going to be alright, that it is going to get better with no feeling behind it. I need sincerity with a true desire to help each other. I know my power, but I had forgotten how capable I was and still am. I knew I could manifest anything I wanted, but I got too complacent.
I knew that the store I was operating was going to close at the end of 2019. I had almost two months to find another job before that came to pass. I thought, “No problem!”. I revamped my resume and added all the new experience and qualifications I gathered in those two years of working there. I had no idea how difficult it was going to be and those two months flew by. I applied to every job and towards the end a desperate feeling blanketed me.
January 2020 rears its ugly head and we have sold off the last of the merchandise along with everything else that wasn’t nailed down at our location. A sense of urgency came over me. I knew I would have to go on unemployment for the first time ever. I prepared for it by getting rid of all subscriptions and things I absolutely did not need. I had no idea what amount I would be receiving from unemployment. Would I be able to afford to pay all of my bills and my credit cards? Would I have to file bankruptcy? Miraculously, I was not panicking under the stress of the unknown. It turned out to be manageable for me.
Fast forward to COVID-19 and I was not getting any interviews at all like I was before. Yes, things can always get worse, and I found myself in a hole of depression and not a fun Alice in Wonderland-esque rabbit hole either. I did not want to get up in the morning. I could not see a purpose to it. I was only doing the bare minimum requirements for unemployment. This went on for about four months until one day in July this rather remarkable woman, Sasha Lipskaia, contacted me on LinkedIn. She reminded me of everything I knew but had forgotten. She gave me a purpose and I was productive once again. We arranged an exchange of services.
Sasha is the most unique mindset life coach. She is a straight shooter who will not let you get away with sabotaging yourself. She asks the tough questions and gives your brain a workout. I never thought I needed that in my life, but I was so wrong. We have been working together for the past 7 months and it really opened my eyes to all the negative thoughts swirling around in my head. I had to change my mindset. Together we are changing the algorithm in life and work.
Fast forward again to a new year and still the same situation, but I don’t feel so lost. The job market is completely saturated with applicants, so I am still focusing on getting what I truly want, to work for myself. I have realized that most of the companies that I have applied to are not going to give me the time of day. On top of that, most of these companies don’t appreciate their employees. I want to change that algorithm as well.
This brings me to what pisses me off. Months ago, I had a conversation with Sasha about how I was being bombarded by all these free webinars that eventually wanted money to gain access. Granted, the content was exceptional, however, read the room. So many people are out of work still and I know there are so many that aren’t even receiving unemployment benefits. How will we afford to pay $1,000 or more? If I was in their situation, making that 6-figure salary working remotely with a growing side hustle teaching others I would not charge this astronomical fee. I would give the bulk of it away for free. That is how you gain loyal clients. These people will be so appreciative in the end.
Why not share your good fortune? Either way, you are still getting paid a fee, however small, and you are gifting knowledge and potential employment to these people. They will go on to sing your praises and promote you. If it weren’t for Sasha offering me an exchange of services, then I might never have known I needed a life coach in my life. For only a few hours of work a week for her, I have been gifted the most extraordinary service of her insight into myself. I would not trade it for the world.
Today, I am so confident and powerful because I know what I want and what I do not want. When I run my own business, my employees are going to love coming to work every day. Hating the job will be a thing of the past. I will have an environment where the people I hire love their job. I want a space where no one will get bored for I will utilize all their talents and aid them with their growth. I hate that we work ourselves to death and never take a break to escape burnout. My team and I will be more productive because we will truly reset, and we won’t take our work home or on vacation with us. This shift needs to come to all companies. CEOs need to know their employees and how they are all doing daily. This is the only way for us to move forward.
